The Wednesday night Lent message given in the Gettysburg United Methodist church on February 28, 2024. The Bible verses used are Mark 3:20-35.
Jesus’ first
miracle came at a wedding in Cana, when He turned water into wine. This
was a pretty unmistakable sign that it was time for Jesus to leave Nazareth and
start his ministry on earth.
Jesus’
leaving must have been hard on His mother, Mary. She knew it had to be
this way, of course. She remembered what the angel Gabriel had told
her. She knew who Jesus was. Still, it was hard. Jesus had
been a part of her life for thirty years, more or less. And now, he was
not there anymore.
There
probably was not a day that went by that she did not think of him. She
wondered where he was. She wondered what he was doing. She wondered
if he was all right, if he was eating properly, if he was getting enough
rest. She wondered all the things that a mother wonders when her son is
away from home, out on his own.
Once in a
while, of course, Jesus would come back to Nazareth. And I’m sure he looked
in on Mary, to see how she was doing. It would sure be interesting to
know how those conversations went, don’t you think? Did Jesus tell Mary
about all the things he’d done? Did he tell her about being tempted in
the desert? Did he tell her about healing people? Did he tell her
about taking on demons? If so, how would Mary react to that? Would
she be proud of Jesus? Would she be worried about him? Did she ever
try to get him to come back home, to come back to the carpenter shop?
Well, we
don’t know any of that, of course. But if she ever did try to get him to
come back home, it did not work. Jesus was never there very long.
He’d be there for a little while, and then he’d be gone again, back to his
ministry. And Mary would be alone again, left to wonder and worry about
him.
Obviously, communication
back then was not what it is now. It’s not like Jesus had a cell phone
Mary could call. She could not send him a text or an email. She
could not even contact him on facebook. Still, though, I’m sure she heard
things. Probably lots of things. Maybe she heard about the time he
fed five thousand people with five loaves of bread and two fish. Maybe
she heard about the huge crowds he was drawing to hear him preach. Maybe
she even heard about him walking on the water and calming the storm.
If she
did, she must have been really proud of him. I mean, think about
it. Think about if your son or your daughter could do stuff like
that. Most parents are proud of their children anyway, but this would be
something really incredible right. To think that your child was doing
that. It’d be incredible.
But she
probably heard some other things, too. She probably heard about the times
Jesus broke the Sabbath law. She probably heard about the times he argued
with the Pharisees. She probably heard about the times he got into
trouble with the authorities. And you just know that there were some
people eager to tell her about stuff like that, right? After all, it’s
not like gossip is a recent invention. People did it back then,
too. There were probably people who just could not wait to tell Mary when
they heard something critical of Jesus.
So we come to our Bible reading for tonight.
We’re told that Jesus and his disciples go to a house, and there’s a huge crowd
there, so big that Jesus could not even eat. Then we’re told, “When his
family heard about this, they went to take charge of him, for they said, ‘He is
out of his mind.’”
Now, we
don’t know who this “family” was that thought Jesus was out of his mind.
Some people think it was not actually his family at all, at least not in the
sense of blood relatives. And that does kind of make sense, because
people sometimes gave “family” a broader meaning back then. People who
were family friends were sometimes referred to as uncles or cousins, even
though they were not actually related. Whoever it was, though, it must
not have been Mary, and it must not have been Jesus’ brothers, because we’re
told later in the passage, “Then Jesus’ mother and brothers arrived.”
And that’s the part I want to focus on. Jesus
is talking to the people, and he’s telling them things about God and about
their faith. And the things he’s telling them, the way he’s interpreting
scripture and telling them who God is, are things they’ve never heard
before. They’ve certainly never heard them from the Pharisees. And
Jesus is saying it like he’s someone in authority, like he knows this stuff and
has no doubt that it’s true.
And
because of that, some people think Jesus has gone nuts. And other people
think he’s possessed by demons. And in the middle of all this chaos and
confusion, Mary and Jesus’ brothers show up. They cannot even get in the
door because of the crowd. So they send a message to Jesus to tell him
that they’re there and want to talk to him.
And here’s Jesus’ response. He says, “Who
are my mother and my brothers?” Then he looks at the people around him,
the people who believe in him and trust him, and he says, “Here are my mother
and my brothers! Whoever does God’s will is my brother and sister and
mother.”
Can you
imagine Mary’s reaction, when she heard that response? She was worried
about Jesus. She’d heard he might be in trouble. She came down to
check on him, to see if he could help. And Jesus sends a response that
basically is a rejection of both Mary and of his brothers.
Now, I don’t
think Jesus really intended it that way. It’s hard for me to believe that
Jesus would’ve deliberately hurt his mother. I think he was more making a
point about how we are all brothers and sisters if we follow God. Or, he
may have been afraid that Mary and his brothers were going to try to make him
stop his ministry. Or there may have been other reasons Jesus said what
he said. But still, think of this from Mary’s point of view. Mary
has come all this way because she loves Jesus and is worried about him, and
Jesus refuses to even see her. Can you imagine how she must have felt?
We don’t
know what happened after that. Mark drops the story at that point and
moves on to something else. So do Matthew and Luke in their versions of
the story. We’d like to think, of course, that maybe after the meal was
over and the people had left, Jesus went to see Mary and explained things to
her. But for all we know, that may not have happened until much later or
it may not have happened at all. For all we know, Mary and her sons may
have simply turned around and gone home, feeling like Jesus did not even care
about them anymore.
Have you ever had someone you love hurt you like
that? Have you ever felt rejected by someone you were really close
to? Someone you were just trying to help? If so, then maybe you
have some idea how Mary felt here. To have her own son, a son whom she’d
been through a lot to have and to raise, and who, after all, was supposed to be
the Son of God, reject her, and in a really public way. It had to hurt.
But here’s
the thing. Somehow, Mary got over it. Somehow, Mary got past the
hurt. I don’t suppose it was easy. It probably took some
time. It probably took some prayer. Maybe it took talking to Jesus
at some point, we don’t know. But somehow, Mary got over it. We
know she got over it because we see her with Jesus later in the gospels.
In fact, we see her at the cross when Jesus is dying, and we see her going to
prepare Jesus’ body for burial.
In other
words, Mary forgave Jesus. Does that sound odd to you? That Mary
would forgive Jesus? After all, Jesus is the divine Son. Jesus is
without sin. And yet Mary forgave Jesus. Did Jesus sin, that Mary
had to forgive him?
No, I
don’t think so. I believe that Jesus did not sin while he was on
earth. He was tempted to, but he did not. But I still think that
Mary forgave him.
You see, I don’t think we have to sin, necessarily,
to hurt people. We can hurt people by accident. We can hurt people
with the best of intentions. We can hurt people by things we say or do
when we don’t even realize how they’re going to take what we say.
And that
can happen to us, too. We can be hurt by people who have no intention of
hurting us. But despite their intentions, we’re still hurt. And we
have to find a way to get past it. And that way past it is to forgive
them. We need to forgive them for hurting us even if they don’t know they
hurt us. We don’t forgive them to help them. We forgive them to
help us.
I don’t
think Jesus intended to hurt Mary. But I suspect Mary was hurt. And
I suspect Mary needed to forgive Jesus. Not because Jesus needed to
receive forgiveness. But because Mary needed to give it. She needed
to forgive Jesus so she could get past the hurt and have a relationship with
her son again.
Who do you
need to forgive? I suspect there’s someone. I suspect we all have
someone we need to forgive. I’d encourage you to think about who it
is. I’d encourage you to pray about it. And I’d encourage you to
find a way to forgive them. It won’t be easy. It may take some
time. It may take lots of time and lots of prayer.
But
keep trying. This period we’re in right now, this period of Lent, is a
time for forgiveness. We usually think of that as us asking for
forgiveness from God, and that is a major part of it. But Jesus said
several times that the amount of forgiveness we received is related to the
amount of forgiveness we give.
So again,
keep trying to forgive them. Even if they don’t think they need
forgiveness, keep trying to forgive them. Even if they’re not interested
in receiving your forgiveness, keep trying to forgive them. Keep trying
until you can do it. Because you’re not forgiving them because they need
to receive forgiveness. You’re forgiving them because you need to give
forgiveness. You’re forgiving them so you can get past the hurt.
That’s the only way we can ever be free of it. And it’s only when we’re
free of that hurt that we can truly be the people God wants us to be.