The message given in the United Methodist churches of the Wheatland Parish on Sunday morning, October 17, 2021. The Bible verses used are 1 Peter 3:8-18.
I don’t know how many of you are on facebook,
but if you are, you’ve noticed that every once in a while there’ll be a saying
that just takes off, “goes viral” as they say, so that you’re seeing it
everywhere. There’s one that’s been going around for quite a while know
that is a quote from the singer Eminem. It said, “I don't care if you're black, white,
straight, bisexual, gay, lesbian, short, tall, fat, skinny, rich or poor. If
you're nice to me, I'll be nice to you. Simple as that.”
We like that. It sounds really good. It sounds
really inclusive, right? I’ll accept you however you are. Whatever
you are, it’s okay, as long as you’re nice. What a great attitude!
The trouble is, it’s not really
a Christian attitude. What I’m talking about is the part that says, “If
you’re nice to me, I’ll be nice to you.” Because the implication is that
if you’re not nice to me, I don’t have to be nice to you. I can treat you
in exactly the same way you treat me, whether it’s good or whether it’s bad.
Jesus said, “Do to others as you would like them do to
you.” Not do to others as they do to you. Do to others as you’d
like them to do to you. In other words, we’re not supposed to treat
people the way they treat us. We’re supposed to treat people the way we’d
like them to treat us. Jesus said that if someone demands our shirt, we
should give them our coat, too. Jesus said if we’re hit on one cheek, we
should turn the other to them. Jesus said we should love our enemies and
pray for those who persecute us.
In our reading for today, Peter says
something similar. Peter says, “Do not repay evil with evil or insult
with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because to this
you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.”
That’s a really hard thing to do.
I’ll tell you right out that there are plenty of times I don’t do it.
There are plenty of times I don’t repay evil with blessing. There
are times I don’t repay blessing with blessing. It’s a really hard thing
to do.
Peter goes on to talk about why we
should do this. And this is important, because I think we get it wrong
sometimes.
I remember
the stories I heard when I was a little kid. I don’t know if you got the
same stories when you were a little kid that I did, but a lot of times in those
stories, the hero of the story, the nice guy, goes to the bad guy, to the
bully, and treats him or her with kindness and respect, and as a result the
bully changes his or her behavior and becomes nice.
Well, it’d
be great if real life worked that way, and maybe sometimes it does, but there
are a lot of times when it does not. In real life there are a lot of
times when we treat the bully with kindness and respect and the bully just
takes advantage of the situation and bullies us farther.
Peter did
not tell us to repay evil with blessing because that will make the evil person
change their ways. It might, or it might not. If it does, that’s
wonderful. But that’s not why we’re supposed to repay evil with blessing.
The reason we are supposed to repay evil with blessing is because it’s
the right thing to do. It’s what the Lord wants us to do. And it’s
what Jesus actually did.
Not only may
doing that not change anyone, Peter said that we may actually suffer for
repaying evil with blessing. But he said that if we do, we don’t need to
worry about it. We’re in good company. Jesus did that, too.
Jesus suffered, and even died, for our sins. Jesus suffered the
ultimate evil, and he repaid it with the ultimate blessing.
The only
reason we’re supposed to do this is because it’s the right thing to do. Jesus
showed us that. Peter says that for our trouble, we may have people talk
about us. They may say all kinds of stuff about us that’s untrue.
They may even threaten us. But Peter says it’s okay. He says
it is better to suffer for doing good than for doing evil.
Still, of all the things the Bible tells us to do, I think
this may be the hardest. We like the gospel according to Eminem a lot
better. We like the gospel that says, “If you're nice to me, I'll be nice to you.” That’s a
lot easier than the gospel that says, “If you’re a jerk to me, if you threaten
me, if you talk about me behind my back, I’ll still be nice to you.” We
know it’s what we’re supposed to do. But it’s really hard to do it.
I wish I had a nice, simple way that
made it easy for us. I don’t. As I said, I struggle with this as
much as anyone. So, instead, what I’m going to do is talk about some things,
that, when if really think about them, might help us do these things.
Here they are.
One of them is to remember that we don’t
know someone else’s story. All of us are shaped by a lot of things.
The family we grew up in. The place we grew up in. The people
around us when we were growing up. The experiences we’ve had since we got
older. The jobs we’ve held. The people we’ve worked with. The
places we’ve lived. The things we’ve gotten involved in. The
chances we’ve had. These and all kinds of other things all contribute to
make us who we are.
And that can be for good or for bad.
If I’d grown up in a different family, if I’d grown up in a city rather
than on the farm, if I’d grown up with more money or with less money, if I’d
been better looking or worse looking, if I’d been more athletic, if I’d gone to
school in a different place, if I’d gotten a different job, if I’d never met
Wanda, I might be different in a lot of ways. I don’t know what those ways
are. I might be better or I might be worse. There’s no way to know.
And there’s no way to know about other
people, either. So when we run into people who treat us badly, who are
not nice to us, who basically act like jerks, we need to remember that.
We need to remember that we don’t know what went into making them that
way. That does not justify bad behavior, but it can make us more
understanding of bad behavior. It can help us make allowances for people
and treat them well even when they don’t treat us well.
Another thing we need to remember is
that all of us, each and every one, are God’s children. That’s true of
the nicest person you’ve ever met, and it’s true of the biggest jerk on the
planet. Each one of us is one of God’s children. That means that
every person we see is our brother or our sister.
That can help. It can help when
we’re dealing with someone we’d rather not have to deal with. It can help
us to remember that God loves that person every bit as much as God loves me.
After all, we say that nothing can separates us from the love of God,
right? So nothing can separate other people from the love of God, too.
That person we don’t like, that person who did not treat us well--that
person’s a child of God, just like we are. That person is our brother.
That person is our sister. Again, that does not excuse bad
behavior. But it does help us remember that we need to treat each person
with respect and love, no matter what they say and no matter how they act,
because they’re family, just like we’re family. We’re all part of the
family of God.
There’s one other thing that helps, too.
It helps when we remember that we claim to be Christians. Because
as Christians, we don’t follow some other human being. We follow Jesus
Christ. And Jesus Christ did not say, “If you’re nice to me, I’ll be nice
to you.” Jesus said you can curse me and I’ll love you. Jesus said
you can beat me and torture me and I’ll forgive you. Jesus said you can
kill me and I’ll die so your sins can be forgiven.
If Jesus had said, “If you’re nice to
me, I’ll be nice to you,” none of us would be saved. Because none of us
has been nice to Jesus. Oh, maybe sometimes we are, but not always.
There are a lot of times we ignore Jesus. There are a lot of times
we pay no attention to Jesus at all. In fact, there are plenty of times
we deliberately do not do what Jesus told us to do. If Jesus had said,
“If you’re nice to me, I’ll be nice to you”, we’d all be lost.
But Jesus did not say that. And as
people who claim to follow Jesus, we should not say it, either. You and
I, as followers of Jesus, are called to love everyone. Even the people
who we think don’t deserve our love. After all, Jesus loves us, and we
don’t deserve his love.
So let’s try to love everyone the way
Jesus loves them. Is that a tough standard? Yes. Will we
always meet it? No. But we can try. And we can keep
trying. Let’s not just be nice to people who are nice to us. Let’s
show Jesus’ love to everyone. If we do, we’ll be a lot closer to being
the people God wants us to be.
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