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Thursday, February 21, 2013

Control Trouble

This is the message given at the midweek Lenten service in Gettysburg.  The Bible verses are Matthew 4:1-11.


One of the religious traditions that has sprung up is the idea of giving something up for Lent. How many of you have done that this year? I won't ask what you gave up, but did anybody give something up for Lent this year?

Here's my confession: I did not. I never have. That's not to say there's anything wrong with it. If you've given up something for Lent this year, or if you're still considering doing it even though we're already a week into Lent, I don't want to discourage you. It's just not something I've ever done. I've never really seen how it would help me.

Because that's the reason behind giving something up for Lent, right? It's not just something we do to deprive ourselves. We give up something for Lent because it'll help us be better people. We give up something for Lent because it'll bring us closer to God. We give up something for Lent with the intent that doing it will change our lives in a positive way.

And so, as I was doing some reading and thinking about what to preach on during Lent this year, I saw an idea that really hit me. The idea is that giving up something for Lent can go beyond giving up “things”. We don't have to give up chocolate or ice cream or facebook or anything like that. What we can give up, and what would really change our lives if we did give them up, are the feelings and attitudes and emotions that get in the way of our relationship with God and keep us from being the people God wants us to be.

We're going to start with one of the toughest ones. We're going to start with giving up control of our lives.

Have you ever tried to do that? It's hard. It's really hard. We don't like to give up control of our lives. We always want to be the ones in control.

In fact, think of it this way. Think of a time when you were not in control. Think of a time when other people were making decisions for you and you really had no say in what was going to happen. One example we've all gone through is when we're kids. Other people make the decisions about what time we're going to get up and what time we're going to go to bed, what time we're going to eat and what we're going to eat, when we'll go to school, when we're allowed to go out and where we're allowed to go, and on and on and on.

Maybe when we're really little, we don't mind that so much. The older we get, though, the more it bothers us. We want to be able to decide those things. We want to decide when we'll go to bed and when we'll get up. We want to decide what we'll eat and when, when we'll go out and where. We don't like it that someone else is making decisions about our lives.

I suspect being in the military is somewhat like that. There are a lot of decisions you don't get to make for yourself when you're in the military. When you get an order from a superior, you're not allowed to say “no.” You say “yes, sir” and you do it.

In fact, there's an extent to which all jobs are like that. When the boss tells us to do something, we have to do it. Depending on our relationship with the boss, we may be able to ask questions or raise doubts or have a discussion, but ultimately, if the boss says to do something, we have to do it. We may not like it, but if we want to keep our jobs, that's what we have to do.

Because there are so many times in our lives when we're really not in control, we tend to hold on even more tightly to those times when we are. When we grow up, when we have free time, we want to make the decisions about what we're going to do and when we're going to do it. We want to be in charge of our own lives.

And then God comes along. And God says, “give Me control of your life. Turn things over to Me. Do the things I'm telling you to do. Live the way I'm telling you to live.”

And we say, “What? No way. I've got people telling me what to do and when to do it and where to do it all the time. Now I'm supposed to give my life to You? Forget it. I'm in charge here. I'm doing it my way.”

And we do. And then we wonder why we seem to struggle so much. And we wonder why we seem to be unhappy so much of the time. And we wonder why, even when things are going well, we never really seem to be fulfilled. We wonder why there's this emptiness in our lives, even when things seem to be going okay.

We wonder about it. Sometimes we even do something about it. Maybe we change jobs, thinking that will make us happy. Maybe we buy more stuff, thinking it'll fill the empty space in our lives. Maybe we take up a new hobby, look for new friends, join some new group. We do all sorts of things to try to find happiness and fulfillment in our lives.

And none of it works. Oh, maybe it does, for a while. It gives us the illusion that we're happier, anyway. Eventually, though, the newness wears off, our enthusiasm wears off, and we're right back where we were. And we start looking for the next big thing, the thing that's going to fill our emptiness and make us happy. And all the time, God keeps saying the same thing. “Give Me control of your life. Turn things over to Me. Do the things I'm telling you to do. Live the way I'm telling you to live.”

Jesus understands why it's hard. We read the story from Matthew about the temptation of Jesus. Think of what Jesus was tempted to do.

“Tell these stones to become bread.” That does not sound like such a bad idea. In fact, it sounds pretty awesome. Think of all the people who could be fed. If we had the ability to turn stones into bread, we could end hunger, right? Think of all the rocks there are. There'd be enough food for everybody. And Jesus could've done it. Think of how tempting that was for him. And all he had to do was stop giving God control over his life, and take control for himself.

“Throw yourself down” from the top of the temple. When the angels save you, think of all the people who'll believe in you. Even the Pharisees would have to believe that. I mean, if they saw angels carrying Jesus to the earth so he would not be hurt, they'd all have to believe he was the Son of God. That had to be a real temptation, too. And all he had to do was stop giving God control of his
life, and take control for himself.

“All this I will give you, if you will bow down and worship me.” Jesus could've had control over the entire earth and everything and everyone in it. Think of the good he could've done. Think of the lives he could've saved. Think of the people he could've healed. That had to be the biggest temptation of all. And all Jesus had to do was stop giving God control of his life, and take control for himself.

Jesus knew that he was not put on earth to be in control of his own life. Jesus knew he was put on earth for a specific reason and a specific purpose. Jesus knew he was put on earth to serve God. Jesus knew he would never be happy, never be fulfilled, if he did not do that. So Jesus knew that meant he needed to give God control of his life, and not take control for himself.

That's true for each of us, too. You and I were not put on earth to be in control of our lives. Each of us is put on earth for a specific reason and a specific purpose. Each of us is put on earth to serve God. We will never be happy, never be fulfilled, if we do not do that. That means each of us needs to give God control of our lives, and not take control for ourselves.

“But Jesus was the Son of God.” Yes, he was. And that made it even harder. Because Jesus knew what giving God control of his life meant. Jesus knew he was going to be arrested. Jesus knew he was going to be beaten. Jesus knew he was going to be tortured. Jesus knew he was going to be killed, and killed in a very painful way. And Jesus knew he did not have to let it happen. He could avoid it. All he had to do was stop giving God control of his life, and take control for himself. He could avoid the pain—but he could not gain happiness or fulfillment.

You and I are children of God, too. But we don't know what know what giving God control of our lives will mean. We don't know what's going to happen to us. We're afraid of what might happen if give God control of our lives. We can avoid that fear if we take control for ourselves. We can avoid the pain we fear—but we cannot gain happiness or fulfillment.

Each of us is put on earth for a specific reason and a specific purpose. Each of us was is put on earth to serve God. We will never be happy, never be fulfilled, if we don't do that. This Lenten season, instead of giving up TV or chocolate or anything else, let's give up control of our lives. That's something we can give up that will change our entire lives.

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