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Thursday, November 22, 2012

Thankful for "Them"?

This is the message given at the Onida Community Thanksgiving service Wednesday, November 21.  The Scripture used is 1 Timothy 2:1-7.


            At the beginning of our reading from Paul’s first letter to Timothy, here’s what Paul said to Timothy, “I urge that petitions, prayers, intercession, and thanksgiving be made for everyone.”
           
Let’s think about that.  We get why we should pray for everyone.  We kind of get why we should ask for the Lord to intercede on behalf of everyone.  What about that last one, though?  Are we really supposed to give thanks for everyone?
           
That’s a tough one.  It is for me anyway.  I mean, if I’m honest, I can think of several people right off the top of my head that I’m not particularly thankful for.  I’ll bet if you’re honest you can, too.
           
I mean, there are the obvious ones.  There are terrorists, there are dictators, there are murderers, there are all kinds of people like that.  But the chances are we probably won’t come into contact with a lot of people like that on an everyday basis. 

The thing is, though, that we don’t have to think of people like that to think of folks we’re not very thankful for.  There are people who are actively in our lives, people who we see or talk to or hear from fairly frequently, whom we’re not very thankful for.
           
These people are not necessarily bad or evil people.  They may very well be sincere Christians, people who love the Lord and have accepted Jesus Christ as their Savior.  Still, there’s something about them that just rubs us the wrong way.  We hear their voice, and it’s like fingernails on a chalkboard.  We don’t necessarily hate them.  We don’t even necessarily dislike them.  We just don’t want to have to deal with them.  We don’t want anything bad to happen to them, really, but if, somehow, they were to move away somewhere and never contact us again, it would frankly be all right with us.
           
Most of us have a few people like that in our lives.  I’ll bet each of here can think of at least one, probably more.  And yet, here’s Paul telling Timothy we have to be thankful for everyone, and everyone obviously includes those people.
           
That means we’re supposed to be thankful for those people, but how do we do it?  How can we be thankful for those people who are in our lives, but who we’d just as soon not have in our lives? 

It’s not easy.  We know we’re supposed to do it, but it’s not easy.  The thing is that, while there’s an extent to which thankfulness is a conscious choice, there’s also an extent to which thankfulness is a feeling, an emotion.  And it’s hard to make ourselves feel something we don’t feel.
           
So what do we do?  How do cultivate a feeling of thankfulness for everyone?  Well, a little later, Paul says this:  “For there is one God and one mediator between God and human beings, Christ Jesus, himself human, who gave himself as a ransom for all people.”
           
If we remember that, maybe that’ll make it easier for us to be thankful for everyone, even people we’d just as soon were not in our lives.  No matter who we are, no matter where we are, no matter what we do, we still have only one God.  There still is only one Savior, Jesus Christ.
           
That means that we’re all equal in God’s eyes.  We are all the children of God.  If we can remember that, it may help us be thankful for everyone in our lives.  After all, if we’re honest with ourselves, one of the reasons we’re not thankful for some people, one of the reasons we’d rather not deal with some folks, is because we think we’re better than they are in some way.
           
Now, we’d never put it like that.  At least I’d never put it like that.  I’d say, “well, we’re just different,” or “well, that person just rubs me the wrong way,” or “the two of us just don’t mesh together very well.”  I would never admit, even to myself, that I thought I was better than this person I don’t want to deal with.  If I was really honest, though, I’d have to admit that’s part of what’s behind it.
           
And that’s wrong.  See, if we’re all God’s children, that means more than just that we’re equals.  It also means that we’re family.  We’re brothers and sisters.
           
Now, I don’t have sisters, but I have two brothers.  And, to be honest, there have been times when I’d rather not deal with them, too.  If you have brothers or sisters, I’ll bet it’s the same with you.  There’ve been times when we’ve argued.  There’ve been times when we simply could not see eye to eye on things.  If you have brothers or sisters, or both, I’ll bet there’ve been times when it was like that for you, too.
           
The older I get, though, the more I realize the importance of family.  God put us into families, and God did that for a reason.

Remember in Genesis, where God says of Adam “It is not good for the man to be alone”?  God knows that life can be hard sometimes.  That’s why God does not want us to go through life alone.  That’s why God put us into families, so that we would not have to go through life alone.  We need to be there for our families, and we need our families to be there for us.

See, the thing is that, no matter how long I live, no matter what else happens to me, I’ll only have two brothers.  Greg and Mark are the only two people in the world who will ever be my brothers.  I’ll only have one mom and one dad.  The people I call Mom and Dad now are the only people in the world who will ever be my mom and my dad.  Once they’re gone, I won’t have any other mom or dad or brother.  That’s it.
           
That means that we need to find a way to love and be thankful for those people who are in our family.  No matter how much our family may drive us crazy, no matter how much we may disagree, we still need to find a way to love and be thankful for those people, because they’re our family.  We don’t get to just trade our brother or sister for someone else who we’d like better.  The people who are our family will always be our family.  And when they’re gone, we don’t get to just go out and get another one.
           
The thing is, it’s the same way with God’s family.  Because we’re all God’s children, those people we have trouble dealing with are our brothers and sisters.  We don’t get to trade them for people we might like better.  God put those people into our lives for a reason.  God does not want us to go through our lives alone.  God does not want them to go through their lives alone, either.  We need to be there for those people, and we need them to be there for us.  We need to find ways to love those people and be thankful for them, because they’re family.
           
Now, having said all this, I know there are some of us who have a lot of problems within our family.  Some of us have been betrayed by our families.  Some of us have been cut off by our families.  Some of us have people in our families that we hope we never see again.  That’s sad, but I know it happens.
           
Even so, we still need to find ways to love those people and be thankful for them.  Remember, Paul wrote that thanksgiving needs to be made for everyone.  Paul did not write, “everyone except the people who treated us badly.”  He did not say “everyone except the people who’ve betrayed us.”  Paul said we need to be thankful for everyone.  No exceptions.
           
That’s not easy.  No one ever said it would be easy.  If it was easy, Paul would not have had to write about it.  There’ll be times when we don’t want to do it.  There’ll be times when we think we cannot do it.  There’ll be times when we don’t even want to try.
           
God understands that.  Even so, though, the message is the same.  We’re supposed to be thankful for everyone, with no exceptions.  Because we’re all equal in God’s eyes.  We’re all brothers and sisters of each other and children of God.
           
So, when it comes to those people we have trouble being thankful for, let’s remember that.  Let’s try to see them through God’s eyes, rather than our own eyes.  Let’s try to see that person the way God sees them.  Let’s remember that person is every bit as important to God as we are.  Let’s remember that God loves that person just as much as God loves us.  Let’s remember that Jesus Christ died for that person, just as much as Jesus Christ died for us.
           
It still probably won’t be easy, but we can do it.  God never asks us to do the impossible.  If we pray for God’s help and pray for God’s Spirit to come into our hearts, we can see that person the way God sees them.  And then we can be thankful for that person.  We can be thankful that God has put them into our lives.  We can truly be thankful for everyone, just as Paul said we should be.

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